Get Out of My Head. Oh Wait, I Just Invited You In… January 27, 2010

One of the things that Grant* and I struggle with, is my occasional “internal freak-outs”, in which I get silly scared about how quickly things are moving between us. Mind you, these are not horrible sessions of freaking out where I decide that this isn’t going to work, but rather, mini (real mini) panic attacks. Prior to meeting Grant*, I had spent 3-years on and off internet dating websites, going out with different fellas and always hitting a dead-end (be it my choice or theirs). I had succumbed to the fact that I would remain single, press on in my career, continue to date chumps, write about them and adopt children when I was good and ready. I was OK with that, though I will not say that it would have been an ideal choice for me. Then Grant* came along and turn my world topsy turvy.

Let’s go down a list of the top 3 things that have caused aforementioned freak-outs and the internal monologues that occurred with each…

You Can’t Always Get What You Want January 24, 2010

Things have been going pretty swimmingly with Grant* and I (and by “swimmingly” I mean that things have been moving at a rate in which warp speed could not keep up with). I know that this is the “honeymoon” period of the relationship. The time when grandiose statements of love and adoration are made. Oh, did I not mention that the L-bomb was dropped? Yea…about that…

Like I said, things are moving along rapidly, and I constantly find myself wrapped up in the awesome that comes with falling for a fella. Friends and siblings have been met, dates that last for days have been had, and discussion of telling or not telling yet to be born children about Santa Claus have been debated (for the record, I’m the one that thinks Santa should be a part of a child’s life, but that’s neither here nor there since seriously, we’ve known each other only 7 weeks). Yet, I still find myself ok with having such intense, ridiculous conversations. The real question is — Why?

Slackless In The City January 13, 2010

I’m not big about blogging about seriously personal things about my life (you know, only my ridiculous dating experiences, first kisses, silly family and the details of the butterflies a certain fella gives me–standard stuff, right?). In all seriousness though, I don’t typically get into things that are terribly intimate, like the fact that I am a bit of an exhibitionist. And I mean that in every sense of the word–I’m outgoing, will talk to basically anyone and have no issue being the center of attention.  Also, I have no problem with nudity, partial or otherwise. My parents are no hippies, but I was raised in a very naked household. That being said, when I heard about Improv Everywhere’s No Pants Subway Ride it was something that I could totally get behind. I mean really, take your pants off on the subway and wear fun undies – so all about that.

My So Called Dating Life – How a Debonair Lumberjack Made Himself a Fixture in my Life (Part I) December 30, 2009

In my last post, I dropped the bomb about no longer being single, and I guess it would be appropriate for me to go into how this all came to fruition. A few short weeks ago, I, like many youngish single people–was playing around on OkCupid and having a moderately frustrating (translation: horrible), but fun (read: meh) time at taking another shot at online dating.

My So Called Dating Life – The Debonair Lumberjack Chronicles December 21, 2009

Oh geez…I met a fella and he’s kinda wonderful. Basically, he is the reason I haven’t posted these past 3 weeks. Not because he has been consuming all of my free time (quite the contrary actually. Work has been doing a fine job of filling that role), but rather because it’s new and he also reads this blog, so I can’t have him getting some serious ego trip by going on and on about him that early on in the game.

Scary thing — we’ve been dating about 3-weeks and on date 3 we made it official (as in, no dating of other people). Even though I am aware of the consequences of this, and I thought that I had fully realized my decision, it didn’t properly hit me until this past Saturday night (when I met his 2 best friends – more about that in a later post). When he first asked me (last Tuesday), I responded immediately, and then did an internal freak-out (which, I’m quite certain he noticed because he said to me that “there is a 5-second take back” rule I could utilize if I so chose to), but I held steady to my choice. Something about him just seems right.

My So Called Dating Life: Sometimes Full Disclosure Isn’t The Smartest Move Or Is It? November 27, 2009

There is something inherently wrong with having lots of “net” contact before meeting a potential date, and even though I am fully aware of the problems that can arise (i.e. a false sense of who this person is, getting to know too much too soon, etc.) I still sometimes fall into this trap. Yep, you guessed it, I’ve gone and done it again…

So, there is this fella (per usual) who I am totes net crushing on. On screen he is, quite frankly ridic cute and probably totally bad for me (but to be honest, that’s exactly how I like ‘em). A little bit (or in this case, a lot) of edge. A touch of street cred with a dash of “I don’t give a damn what you think” thrown in for good measure. I know — I kinda swooned too.

My So Called Dating Life – Mr. Congeniality Is Not An Authorized User November 24, 2009

Over the past 3+ weeks I have been giving OkCupid a go. My plan was to focus my efforts on dating “nice guys”. It backfired. Well, perhaps “backfired” is the wrong term, but I did come to the realization that I’m just not hard-wired to date a nice fella.

What do I mean by that you ask? Well that’s a touch hard to define, but in my mind a nice guy is a someone who is everything a gal could want “on paper”. Smart, funny, sweet, traditional and all that nonsense. In any case, I went on 3 different dates with guys that seemed “nice” (translation: they did not have an edge to them. They were what most mothers would be happy to see their daughter with).

My So Called Dating Life – Mom’s Checklist November 12, 2009

My family is le awesome–for realsies. We are a hybrid of The Cleavers and The Adams Family with a dash of The Bundys thrown in for good measure (my mother would murdercate me about the Bundy bit, but it’s kind of true in a completely not trailer-trash sort of way). I share just about everything with my immediate family, so they are fully aware of my dating situations and stories and they know of this blog, but they understand my want for some privacy and haven’t asked for the link (praise Jesus!).

My So Called Dating Life – Profile Photo Clichés November 4, 2009

I’ve been avoiding blogging properly the past two weeks. Chiefly because a fella did something to really piss me off. I’m not going to go into details, but lets just say it was douche-y (and no one likes it when someone pulls a d-bag maneuver. Especially when they try to edge their way back in by pretending that they didn’t just pull one). Moving on…

So yea, back to the dating playground for me. At the recommendation of many, I decided to throw my ballot into the OKCupid box. Honestly, it’s been a real interesting trip thus far. I dig the interface and there are lots of cool features and it’s free (who doesn’t like free?). Now, some of you know about my experiences with Match.com (specifically, my disdain for it–it’s like Match.com is where the desperate go to die), but OKC is a little different–it’s where the youngish (24 to 40ish), slightly jaded (or in my case, seriously jaded) dating crowd hangs out–so I feel like I’m in pretty good company.

Who Has the Best Online Dating Profile Contest October 29, 2009

I’m a little late with posting this (my b).

In any event 2ChicksINC has a contest / promotion going on in conjunction with OKCupid and SurveyGizmo. It runs until November 30th, 2009 and is pretty neat. Clicky the linky to the right to vote (you can do so without joining, but if you are interested in online dating I have to admit that OKC is pretty sweet and totally free).

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